7 TIPS ON BECOMING THE RIGHT WOMAN.
He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour from the Lord.
Hi lovelies! If you’re reading this article it’s probably because you’re interested in being the right person and NOT finding the right person, which is a great place to start. Recently, we at the Mt. Hope IVCF meetings on campus had a three-part series on love, sex and dating featuring videos by Andy Stanley. It would be totally selfish of me to not share with you all some of the things we learnt, were reminded of and some of the principles by which I live my single life.
Sorry men, but this article is going to be from a woman’s perspective and ladies, you may not agree with all my 7 tips but here they are:
1. STOP LOOKING!!!
I can almost already see the hesitation on your face, but hear me out. Ladies I know by the time some of us reach 20 and are still single we go into a hysterical panic. First question on our minds is, “Where are all the good men?” No need to panic. This time of singleness is not for us to worry about the next guy and it definitely isn’t meant for us to panic about forever being alone. It’s meant for us to focus on Christ and our relationship with Him. It’s meant for us to spend our long winding days trusting Him, falling in love with Him, believing that whatever or whomever He has for us will be the best and it will be worth waiting for.
2. DEAL WITH YOUR ISSUES.
Now we can all pretend that we’re perfectly put together or we can admit that some parts of our lives are a complete mess! These parts have to be fixed because honestly, no man wants all your burdens and baggage (and you don’t want his). And yes, I know we are to bear each other’s burdens but that doesn’t mean we get away with not dealing with our issues in the hope that the next guy can handle it all. So whether it be daddy issues, sibling rivalry or a shopping and/or saving problem, go before God and get it fixed.
3. GET INVOVLED AT CHURCH.
Ladies, the men that we want do not want the woman who comes to church only on Sunday mornings and leaves immediately after the service has ended until next Sunday. Not that we’re going to be involved to attract a man but if you take tip #1 seriously, your involvement in church will be inevitable and the right person will notice you. Be willing to come out of your comfort zone but within God’s boundaries.
4. DRESS THE WAY A CHRISTIAN MAN WOULD WANT HIS WIFE TO DRESS.
Initially I had just put “man” instead of “Christian man”, but you know we have to differentiate because the standards just aren’t the same. 1 Tim 2:9-10…We know when we’re dressing modestly and we know when we are not. I’m not even going to get into it. Be honest with yourself before God.
5. LEARN TO BE SUBMISSIVE AND ACCOUNTABLE TO GOD.
To some women and unfortunately even Christian women, this “S” word is a full blown expletive. Colossians 3:18 and Ephesians 5:22-23! While you are single take this time to LEARN how to submit to God. In doing so, He will teach you how to also submit to your (future) husband. Accountability is a huge one as well; if you are not currently practising accountability before God, now is a great time to start. If you’re not prepared to do either of these, stop thinking about marriage.
6. LEARN TO COOK!!!
Men I’m sorry that this wasn’t first on the list J. I’ve heard a lot of reasons for why this is not necessary for a 21st century woman. I disagree with all because my quest (and this should be yours as well) is to be a virtuous woman and that has little or even nothing to do with this century. Proverbs 31:15 says “She also rises while it is yet night, and provides food for her household and a portion for her maidservants.” Not my words ladies… not my words.
7. ASK YOURSELF THIS QUESTION…
Am I the person that the person I’m looking for, is looking for?
There are a lot more than 7 tips but these are a good place to start.
Move forward in faith and in the favour of God.
Mt. Hope IVCF President